The Pain that persists - Another side of motherhood

Mom is a beautiful word.  Its a God gift to a woman. She gets complete after a baby and its just not a myth. She becomes a mother after a baby comes in her life. The feeling of being a mom comes with a shine in eyes, blush on cheeks, smile on lips, lights on forehead, such a lovely experience. Everyone loves and respects her more. Its a start of a new phase of her life in which a lady gets changed physically, mentally and emotionally. Pregnancy takes nine months to complete but from the very first day, the feeling of  being a mommy starts.

The pain and complication of pregnancy ends on the date baby comes in her hand. First shot of baby in cry mode and a mom smiles. New relationship starts on that day. Best relationship which directly attached to each other.

 Whenever a woman is in labor she has pain, because her hour has come, but when she gives birth to the child, she no longer remembers the anguish because of the joy that a child has been born into the world. 

But then there are women who can not be a part of this beautiful phase. It can be by choice or by luck. If such women don't want a child then they go for abortion and sometimes abortion/miscarriage happen naturally. Opting a pain might be equal to no pain. However who are accidentally caught in this tragic are full of pain. And in such accidents its a miscarriage/abortion of a feeling started of being a mommy.

The feeling starts with the smile, shine, brightness, lights, blush but ends with cries and silence.

Such incidents give U turn to ones life. After a miscarriage the hopes get shattered, mind stops working, heart keeps sinking and the women become silent for the death of motherhood....Ahhh it pains a lot. Its hard to imagine this pain.

We can console to them but the physical and mental wounds will be their forever in the form of marks. These marks are of their unseen cuts on her body, soul and heart. She still manages to stand again but with shaking legs and hands.

All she says,

"I am broken today. 

Ah It pains like something hit on me. 

It bleeds like something crashed on me.

 It swells like a big pond. Ah I am broken.

 My dreams lost like a dark room. 

My emotions are floating like a boat with a hole. 

Ah I am broken today."

All relatives and friends try to console her. But remains helpless. The best help she can get is from her husband. As he could understand the pain. Although, not so easy.  As a man is not emotional enough to handle a mom emotions. 

The time passes and for the world she is recovered. Her wounds are heeled up, but the marks will stay there in her soul and heart.

Note - Imagine taken from different sources.

Teenage problems

Teenage is a group of age between 13 to 19 yrs of boys and girls. Teenage behaviour is a big concern these days. They want to fly like birds in the sky but they are not aware of the actual height. Teenage don’t bother to know about their power and restrictions.

Teenagers are typically at secondary school, early years of college, post school training or in the first few years of work. The teenage years shows the transition from childhood to adulthood.

The children of the teenage group are facing high risk problems these days. I have tried to collect all and mentioned below as:

• Home work pressure
• Bad grades in studies
• Body fitness
• Looks
• Acne
• Clothes, accessories and vehicle
• Teenage menstruation 
• Fighting of parents at home
• Single mother or father after divorce
• Overprotective parents
• Eating disorders
• Getting involved with drugs, cigarette smoking and alcohol
• Fear of no friends
• Crushes
• Boy friend /Girl friend fights and problems
• Leg pulling
• Peer pressure (sex)
• Pregnancy

From the past history it has been reported that nearly twenty percent of teens will experience depression during adulthood; as many as thirty percent of those with teen depression will develop alcoholism problems.

While teen depression is common to both genders, girls are twice as likely to experience and report symptoms of depression as boys their age, possibly a result of social expectations that encourage girls to express their feelings while discouraging boys from showing weakness. It has been estimated that nearly eighty percent of children with teen depression do not receive the necessary treatment. Significant risk factors for teen depression include trauma, loss (parents, friends, and romantic relationships), abuse, family history of depression, family conflict, long-term illness, increasing social stress and dependence, experimentation with alcohol and drugs, and increasing sexual pressure.

Even I have noticed many times teenage boys and girls studying in secondary school and in early college going through with the stage of stress due to various above things. But it is very shocking to get relief from the stress or just as a status symbol to enjoy. Sometimes it becomes boldness of the personality and attitude to attract opposite sex. You can see in the malls , cigarette shop, cafe, food court, parks etc all are surrounded with the teenage smoking, drinking etc.

In the high-tech societies drugs and computer crime are the most obvious items, along with murder and illegal sex, leading to pregnancy, and infanticide. But there are more basic causes behind these results of the depraved teenage life. So rather than debate about the other issues, it is more important to ask what are teenagers doing using computers at all? And what are they doing running around town unsupervised and free to "score" drugs?  

Where do they get the money for drugs anyway? Steal it of course, or sometimes earn it at their job at the fast food restaurant or other types of part time jobs. It serves no educational purpose, and so besides buying drugs, what do teens need money for anyway? What?

Look at the typical teenager you know, perhaps that surly boy across the street, and ask yourself: Does that kid deserve to be listening to pop music at all? Obviously, he or she deserves no free pop music, and with no job, they don't have money to buy Cd's or costly set to play them on. Think about what happens when these minors, who can be as strong and fast as adults, listen to rock music. Their blood boils and they enter into a kind of frenzy. 

In some research, it has been noticed that today's teenage behaviour has increased abortion nation, and unwanted teen mom nation.  It doesn't stop there, of course. 

I am scared of how we will protect our kids from the spoiled air around us. There is a question in our mind "how we nurture our kids will matter?".

But where there is a problem there is a solution always. Therefore now a days many govt and social groups services are available to fight with this problem. Hope to see you again with solution details.

~~ By Shiva

I couldn't find me....

I am nowhere when I searched me.
I looked inside, And peeped outside,
I asked myself where I can be!!
But I am nowhere, Can I find me ?






In blue sky high, in deep down sea,
where there is air, I searched everywhere.
I couldn't find me.
Am I lost or gone,
Or I'm all alone,
Where are my steps,
Or token of regards.
I found none, who abolished thee.



Then she came in with a doubt and said,
Dad, Are you searching me !
I clutched her tight, with triumph in eyes,
I am in you, why I need me.
Yeah, I found you, I woofed with delight.
Yeah I found me.




~~Nidhi